Whenever racist geeks are all like "my fiction is more important than your reality" my only response is 凸(｀⌒´ )凸
Seriously, nerds, whether it be the portrayal of women, or daring to suggest that maybe a black actor is the best person to portray your FAKE ASS IMAGINARY PERSON/NOT-EVEN-A-PERSON-SOMETIMES, if your allegiance to a story (born out of our racist/sexist/terrible culture) is more important than how that story affects people in the real world, you need to fucking check yourself (and probably go fuck yourself).
“…But what the word “feminist” does do is acknowledge the very long history of the women’s rights movement. I agree with what [Joss Whedon is] saying: It should just be assumed men and women are equally important and equally capable—but it’s not, and it hasn’t been for thousands of years. So, “feminism” and being a “feminist” is an acknowledgement of that history and the culture we’ve lived in for a long time. It’s a reaction to that, but for me, that’s an important acknowledgement to make.”—JOSEPH GORDON LEVITT SPOUTING SO MUCH TRUTH (via carolineeand)
Part 1: I cheated on my girlfriend of 8 months. We're both college kids an are trying a long distance relationship during school. Before i met her, there was a girl i met online. We talked and talked on skype a lot. But we started to grow apart. And during the time when we grew apart i met my girlfriend. She made me feel kore things than anyone ever. After a few months i was hopelessly in love with her. We are(i guess were now) at the point where saying i love you is comfortable.
Part 2: over summer break the gorl online started talking to me again. And like a coward i kept talking to her as if nothing happened. I never mentioned my girlfriend to her. My girlfriend saw that i was talking to her on skype and asked who she was I told her she was just a friend. Like an idiot. I can try to hide behind the fact that one of my girlfriends committed suicide but i have to grow. I cant let that be a reason a be closed off and shitty. I just told my girlfriend everything. Now what
Part 3: i love my girlfriend. She makes me better. But i betrayed her. And right now im pathetically stuck in self pity. I was supposed to visit her this weekend. I already bought my bus ticket. Now what? I told her everything. And i know i dont deserve another chance but i really want one. I’ve never cheated on anyone before. And after this i never will again. I just need to know what i can do at this point. Please help.
Part 4: I love her emily. I have never put someone through this. I feel like the biggest piece of shit. And i should. I betrayed the girl i love. I just dont know why i do these things. Why i lie or end up hurting the ones closest to me.
Hi guy. Let’s talk.
First off, I cannot tell from your question if you told your girlfriend about cheating on her. You say “I just told my girlfriend everything” but then don’t mention it again. So if you didn’t tell her about the cheating, I would suggest you do so.
Second off, fuck your pity party.
I know you must feel terrible that you betrayed your girlfriend, and guilty, and everything else, but it’s time for you to own your behavior rather than being disgusted with it as if it was a roach that just climbed across your dinner plate. That roach is part of you. It’s not all of you, but it is part of you. Take responsibility for your behavior. Saying “I don’t know why I do these things” just keeps you in the bewildered state of being a victim of your own behavior.
You did this because you even though you love your girlfriend, your genitals wanted to be with someone else. This happens to everyone in a relationship, but you actually put your genitals with someone else. It may be because you’re in a long distance relationship and wanted some action. It may be because you don’t actually want to be in a relationship. It may be because love scares you and you’re self-sabatoging. Who knows.
Your relationship seems like a lovely thing, but don’t keep it so much on a pedestal that it becomes untouchable. We need to touch our relationships. We need them to be malleable to the two people in them, and right now this relationship sounds like something out of a cheesy romance novel. No love, no matter how great or small, benefits from being overly romanticized. It makes us forget that we’re actually just two people who decided they dug each other.
Let’s get it a little more grounded, shall we?
You are in a long distance relationship of eight months and you betrayed your girlfriend. Get on that bus, go tell her how sorry you are (but don’t be so flowery about it that she ends up comforting you), and ask her how you can rebuild trust with her. Give her time and space to think it over.
If you lost her, hopefully you’ve learned a lesson. If she stays with you, hopefully you learned an even better lesson.
Keep that relationship here on earth where it belongs and tell your self-pity to fuck off.
“Pockets are a must, for storing your necessaries. Knife, money, tobacco, frogs, string, marbles, bullets. Read your Twain for suggested pocket wares.”—Nick Offerman prescribes your everyday carry (via putthison)
someone said that nicki minaj is exemplary of everything wrong with society today?
While the beat for Anaconda is seriously super wack, if that shit ranks in even your top 1,000 of things that make you mad, you’re mad stupid and if it’s the #1 thing that makes you made, you’re almost certainly racist.